“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung
Look in the mirror first before you judge others.
Why do people tend to judge other people before themselves? I’ve been asking myself this question ever since God knows when. I’m not a religious person but I know that somewhere in the bible God told us to refrain from judging others. I totally get what he means. We have no right to say something about other people’s appearance or personality because He created us in His own image. So judging our fellow humans is like indirectly judging Him… right?
Anyway, that’s not my point here. Being a fan of the WWE before, I found out, the hard way, about how we shouldn’t judge people by what we see on the outside. ESPECIALLY celebrities. Or people you see on TV. -.0
One of my favorite wrestlers, Chris Benoit, apparently killed his wife and his kid then went on to commit suicide. It sent waves of horror and shock, not just in the wrestling world. Everyone who found out about it was beyond surprised, including me. Some people immediately judged him–cursed him and sent his soul to hell. Others, his fans and friends in the business, gave him the benefit of the doubt. They all stated their opinions and violent reactions. They all had their ‘IDEA’ of him. All I heard was “he’s not this and that… he’s like this and that…” It was all sensationalized to the point that the line between what happened and what people speculated was blurred. I didn’t know what to believe anymore. I always see Benoit as a good guy. Well, that WAS his image in WWE. The man everyone idolized. The “RABID WOLVERINE”. Protector of the weak. According to his friends, family and coworkers, he is a good man, a good friend… That’s THEIR image of him.
One comment by a fan on the Internet woke me up to the reality of this so-called life. He (or she, I’m not sure since it was an anonymous post) said something like “we all have our ideas and images of what our idols are supposed to be but at the end of the day, they’re all just humans who may or may not be what you thought they are. What you see on television and pictures may or may not be the REAL them.” And he’s RIGHT. It doesn’t matter how you see it or interpret it. When I look at a celebrity on television, I see the word “FAKE” blinking in big bright RED letters all over the screen. Yes, you can contest my opinion here and say something like, “Oh no, MY IDOL is different. He’s as real as one can be. He’s really kind and he’s a good example. What you see is what you get.”
Please give me a moment to ROLL MY EYES.
Okay. You seriously believe what you’re saying? I’m not gonna be a hypocrite and say that I wasn’t like THAT before. I used to think wrestling in the WWE was real. I used to think Lindsay Lohan was a good example. Well, she WAS. Until she got through puberty and got famous. 😄
ANYWAY, my point is… even the supposed to be “REAL” side of your ‘IDOL’ can be a ruse. Who would want to show their real selves in front of everyone? We all want to have a certain image–celebrity or not. My image at the office is a carefree, happy-go-lucky lady who thinks work is more important than having a relationship. BUT in reality, I WANT TO HAVE A
BOYFRIEND. NOW. Any applicants? Hehe. Kidding…
Going back to my point…
I’m not saying all celebrities, singers or popular people that you see on TV, magazines and movies are FAKE. It’s just that, MOST OF THEM may have started to be REAL. But they all got pressured by the society and it turned them into something they’re not. Or maybe they just want to hide behind thick layers of make up and nice clothes and stuff. I don’t know. We all have our reasons.
So basically, no matter how much I BELIEVE that my idol is a good person because she does charity and volunteer work, she got straight A’s in school and in an interview her parents said she was the sweetest thing ever and all her friends said she’s a cool and amazing friend…I can’t. I stopped trusting television for quite some time now. But sometimes, just sometimes, when I’m too vulnerable… I tend to believe everything I see or hear on TV or on the Internet… which in most cases gets me into trouble. ^^;;;
I’ve been a fan of KPOP for more than two years now. All I can say is, there’s too much FAKE-ness going on in this industry. Or maybe there is a LACK of fake-ness here. Either way, it makes and breaks most of these singers and groups. The cruel and harsh critics known as the NETIZENs always have something to say about someone. If singer A wears a boring and “not too trendy or classy” outfit, they’ll shun her and call her a fashion disaster. If she wears something sexy and “in”, they’ll throw rude and indecent comments her way. Didn’t they know that these artists actually HAVE dress or outfit coordinators who DECIDES what they’re gonna wear? Yes, that’s what they’re HIRED FOR.
Recently, the singer HyunAh from girl group 4Minute was bashed and relentlessly attacked for wearing REAAAALLLLYYY short shorts in her BUBBLE POP performances. I’m not being biased just because I kinda like this girl. But give her a break. Those people saying she’s such a
$lut or a W*ore for wearing such outfits are PATHETIC.
YES, it is shocking for a 17-year-old something to wear such skimpy attire but is it her fault? Let’s take a moment to look back and think about it again. Two words. “COORDINATOR NUNA”. The Korean term for those women who takes care of what they’re gonna wear. The stylist. The designer. Whatever you call them. I don’t really think the artist has any say on what he or she is going to wear on and even OFF stage. Yeah, so they can be casual OFF STAGE and wear what they want but WHAT IF they are required to ‘maintain their image’ even when they’re not performing? What if Hyunah was the ‘sexy’ one in her group and whether she likes it or not she needs to follow the management’s order — that she must wear sexy and revealing outfits no matter what or when…? Am I the ONLY one who thought of that? Let’s not be all RIGHTEOUS and hypocritical. In THIS generation, do you think wearing skimpy or skanky outfits are NOT common among teenagers? What are you, from the 1960s? *rolls eyes TWICE*
MY POINT is… it’s NOT just Hyunah. Even male artists gets heavily criticized for how they look, what they wear or what color their hair is. And it’s DEFINITELY not just in KPOP, although it’s really becoming contagious and out of hand in Kpop, I can say the same for Hollywood as well.
What it all comes down to is this: “Never judge a man’s actions until you know his motives“. We all have our reasons for doing what we do, liking what we like and disliking what we dislike. Yes, I judge them too, I say some comments about these people on TV too, but I don’t believe that what I see is the REAL them. I give them the benefit of a doubt. Why is it so hard for some people to do that? It’s so easy to judge them and say something negative about them but it’s too freaking difficult to say even the smallest of compliments huh? Tsk tsk. Human nature.
This is so beautiful.
DISCLAIMER: I don’t own the gifs and pictures here. Just googled them. 😀
And to end this rant, I’m gonna quote something once said my MOTHER TERESA OF CALCUTTA
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.“